Writing a book on oral sex techniques to be performed on women is a pretty serious undertaking. As Ian Kerner, Ph.D., the author of She Comes First: the Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (2010, ISBN 978-0-06-053826-2) unveils, there’s a lot of there there. There’s a lot to like about this book, provided the reader can get beyond the numerous puns that made us here at WoWasis gag more or less consistently while reading the book. We wish Kerner would have left out that form of juvenilia.

His basic premise is spot-on, namely a good lover of women ensures that she experiences orgasm before he (or she) does. The book is primarily written for men who know little or nothing about the female sex organs, and the author provides a very good anatomical explanation of what they look like and how they function. His descriptions of tongue play are fairly complete, and his discussion of the value of timing is quite good.

Every woman is different, as the author notes, and soon, after the anatomy lesson, Kerner launches into the descriptions of a ridiculously high number of tongue gymnastics. To keep track, he ends the book with a six stage template that can be copied by the buyer, and upon which he or she can note preferred positions for tongue, fingers, and hand.

Veteran punters generally know this stuff, but there are one or two essentials the author has left out (one will remain our secret). For one, we couldn’t find any mention of the importance of keeping your upper lip closed over your teeth. If you don’t, a serious pelvic buck could send her screaming, and not in the right way. We like the fact that he mentioned the importance of good hygiene, thus we hope that millions of North American women will buy this book and adhere to its precept of cleanliness. We wish the author had spent a little more time on the subject of hair as odor-collector. If the author had recommended a clean shave, he might have mentioned Gillette’s Venus razor, loved by thousands of women and their lovers.

If you’re a lover that already has your women climbing the walls, you probably don’t need this book, or the anatomy lesson. Too, you can peruse it at the library. On the other hand, if pleasing women first is news to you, the book’s a good read, and you can just ignore the bad puns. And remember what we said about covering your teeth.  Buy this book now at the WoWasis eStore.